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Neurons That Fire Together Wire Together
Coined nearly 70 years ago by the Canadian neuropsychologist Donald Hebb, this clever phrase reminds us that every experience, thought, feeling, and physical sensation triggers thousands of neurons, forming a neural network. Messages traveling the same pathway in the...
How You Play Shows Some of Your Character
For most of us, our wins and losses are not so publicly displayed, but the heart wrenching truth is that growth edges are painful and hard. They usually don’t get celebrated on national news, however there is much to celebrate in working through these life challenges and acquiring new learning. It requires facing a growth edge and it often feels debilitating.
Tips to Improve Communication in Relationships
One of the most common reasons for couples to seek counseling is to improve communication. What most people really mean when they say they want to improve their communication, however, is that they want to understand and feel understood. They want a deeper connection…..
5 Steps to Reconnect to our Emotions and find Common Ground
Everyone is speaking about how divisive our country is right now. But why? And how do we reverse course to find common ground? I suggest looking more closely at our own emotions and how we are behaving towards each other. You see, there is a pattern that we can zoom in on. Every day we see chaos around us. We watch it on T.V., we see it on our social media, we see just about everything in our society being politically used….
Change is Inevitable, Fatigue is Not
Lately Google has been getting a surge of fatigue-related searches. Questions such as “Why am I tired all the time?” or “Why do I feel so bad?” There seems to be a shared sense of exhaustion among many of us and the search for a remedy is ever present....
Trust Your Gut
There are many opinions out there about making the “right” decisions. As if there is only one way and place you “should” be and if you haven’t arrived there, then you’re doing it wrong. The word itself is laced with disapproval and it inherently doesn’t accept reality. It feels heavy just thinking about it. Yes, as parents it’s our role to guide our children, but it’s not our job as parents, spouses, or therapists to tell other adults what to do. We, as therapists, might suggest things that we think may be helpful, but ultimately you are the expert of yourself. Trust your gut.
Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations..
Why Doesn’t He Love Me Anymore?
We hear stories all of the time of romance and “falling in love.” The early days of dating someone new and sharing your life with him or her can feel intoxicating. These feelings are powerful, and often play a necessary role in moving us toward loyalty and commitment....
What’s the Best Strategy for Parenting Today?
A common reason for families to seek counseling is to improve their child’s behavior. It can be difficult parenting in the world today. We have more access to parenting podcasts, articles, and books than any other time in history. However, many of those messages contradict each other or can be difficult to implement depending on each family’s unique situation….
How do I find a good therapist?
Last summer I needed to find a chiropractor. This would be my first visit to a chiropractor, and quite frankly, I wasn’t even sure what qualities I was looking for. I asked around for recommendations from friends and neighbors. I then narrowed down my search by...
How to find the perfect match…
So what do we look for in a partner or a potential spouse? Other therapists may have different views but this is mine: change and introspection. No one is perfect and no one is going to fulfill your…
I hope you have the courage to choose to do things differently..
One of my favorite authors is Bianca Sparacino. This quote of hers describes how I feel about life and my approach as a therapist. Here’s my life story in a nutshell…
That little voice inside your head…
The other day I was feeling a little under the weather. I had a sore throat and stuffy nose. It was slightly overcast and cloudy outside but the temperature was still an obnoxious 93 degrees. I wanted to sip something hot and cuddle in a blanket, but it seemed weird...
Allowing the Struggle
Seeing our kids struggle can be scary. As parents we often find ourselves in situations where we believe we have the answer to our kids problems. In these moments it can feel natural to jump in and ‘help’ our child by taking over and fixing things. We may feel that we...
The Secret to a Great Marriage
“Communication is key.” That’s the typical advice couples get when they begin a new relationship, or get married. So much seems to be riding on that ability. But what if we don’t know how to communicate well? Does that mean our relationships are doomed to fail? I have...
