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Change Your Thoughts and Your Thoughts Will Change You
Have you ever sent a friend a text and didn’t hear back so you wondered if you were being snubbed or ignored? That’s your brain telling you a story, trying to make sense of your situation. Your brain could have said, They care about me, so they must be busy. But brains generally assume the worst. Why? Because over time our brains evolved to keep us safe by looking for danger. The second we catch a whiff of uncertainty or something triggers a….
Growth Edges—Difficult and Packed with Potential
That place right before growth happens is the hardest. It’s often gripped with fear, self-loathing, desperation, and/or hopelessness. It can feel like all is lost and you’ll be stuck forever, but this is when you are approaching your growth edge. It‘s the place where you get to wake up to the parts of yourself that are not so conscious so that you can be more fully present in the moment. It’s where are you get to heal wounded parts of yourself.
Stop Playing the Game of Relational Jumanji
Stop playing the game of relational Jumanji. Find more peace in your relationships with this solution! Recently I came across a book that changed the way I view relationships. It spoke of something called, The Drama Triangle. This concept was first described by...
It’s Not Just In Your Head. It’s In Your Body Too.
Anxiety and worry often get a bad rap for being “just in your head,” but research affirms that symptoms of anxiety reside in our body as well. To address worry or fear in our head without taking into consideration how it affects the body, would be missing half the...
Neurons That Fire Together Wire Together
Coined nearly 70 years ago by the Canadian neuropsychologist Donald Hebb, this clever phrase reminds us that every experience, thought, feeling, and physical sensation triggers thousands of neurons, forming a neural network. Messages traveling the same pathway in the...
How You Play Shows Some of Your Character
For most of us, our wins and losses are not so publicly displayed, but the heart wrenching truth is that growth edges are painful and hard. They usually don’t get celebrated on national news, however there is much to celebrate in working through these life challenges and acquiring new learning. It requires facing a growth edge and it often feels debilitating.
Tips to Improve Communication in Relationships
One of the most common reasons for couples to seek counseling is to improve communication. What most people really mean when they say they want to improve their communication, however, is that they want to understand and feel understood. They want a deeper connection…..
5 Steps to Reconnect to our Emotions and find Common Ground
Everyone is speaking about how divisive our country is right now. But why? And how do we reverse course to find common ground? I suggest looking more closely at our own emotions and how we are behaving towards each other. You see, there is a pattern that we can zoom in on. Every day we see chaos around us. We watch it on T.V., we see it on our social media, we see just about everything in our society being politically used….
Change is Inevitable, Fatigue is Not
Lately, Google has been getting a surge of fatigue-related searches. Questions such as “Why am I tired all the time?” or “Why do I feel so bad?” There seems to be a shared sense of exhaustion among many of us and the search for...
Trust Your Gut
There are many opinions out there about making the “right” decisions. As if there is only one way and place you “should” be and if you haven’t arrived there, then you’re doing it wrong. The word itself is laced with disapproval and it inherently doesn’t accept reality. It feels heavy just thinking about it. Yes, as parents it’s our role to guide our children, but it’s not our job as parents, spouses, or therapists to tell other adults what to do. We, as therapists, might suggest things that we think may be helpful, but ultimately you are the expert of yourself. Trust your gut.
Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations..
Why Doesn’t He Love Me Anymore?
We hear stories all of the time of romance and “falling in love.” The early days of dating someone new and sharing your life with him or her can feel intoxicating. These feelings are powerful, and often play a necessary role in moving us toward loyalty and commitment....
What’s the Best Strategy for Parenting Today?
A common reason for families to seek counseling is to improve their child’s behavior. It can be difficult parenting in the world today. We have more access to parenting podcasts, articles, and books than any other time in history. However, many of those messages contradict each other or can be difficult to implement depending on each family’s unique situation….
How do I find a good therapist?
Last summer I needed to find a chiropractor. This would be my first visit to a chiropractor, and quite frankly, I wasn’t even sure what qualities I was looking for. I asked around for recommendations from friends and neighbors. I then narrowed down my search by...
How to find the perfect match…
So what do we look for in a partner or a potential spouse? Other therapists may have different views but this is mine: change and introspection. No one is perfect and no one is going to fulfill your…
