By: Reggie Gates | Jul 25, 2023 | Therapy and Treatment
While the terms "therapy" and "mental health" are widely recognized today, there is still a disconnect between how therapy is portrayed in pop culture and what it truly offers. Many people carry outdated beliefs that seeking help is a sign of weakness, especially among older generations. But therapy is not about weakness—it’s about strength, healing, and choosing to live with intention.
One common question I hear is: "How do I know if therapy is right for me?" While there are many paths to mental wellness, here are some thoughts based on my own perspective and clinical experience.
What Is Therapy, Really?
According to the American Psychiatric Association, therapy (or psychotherapy) is a treatment that helps individuals manage emotional challenges and mental health conditions. It can alleviate symptoms, uncover root causes, and improve overall well-being.
Therapy can address:
That list isn’t exhaustive, but it shows the broad reach of therapy. And for many first-time clients, understanding what to expect can shift their perspective.
Misconceptions About Therapy
Many believe they’ll attend one session, receive quick advice, and leave with all their problems solved. But therapy isn’t about giving answers—it’s about empowering clients to discover their own. Therapists act as sounding boards and guides, not life coaches with ready-made solutions.
The true value of therapy lies in collaboration. By working together in a safe, non-judgmental space, clients begin to process feelings, develop insights, and learn to self-regulate. In short, therapy teaches you how to "fish," not just how to eat for a day.
Yes, therapists may offer suggestions or insights, but their role is to support your growth—not to dictate it. If you're only looking for advice, therapy may not meet that expectation.
How Long Should I Be in Therapy?
The answer varies.
Some clients find one or two sessions sufficient. Others benefit from ongoing work over years. The duration depends on your goals, the complexity of your concerns, and your willingness to be open and vulnerable.
Rather than focusing on a specific timeline, the better question is: Am I making progress? Therapy is most effective when it's part of a longer-term commitment to personal growth.
Therapy Is for Everyone
One harmful myth is that therapy is only for those who are "crazy" or "unstable." Nothing could be further from the truth. Some of the most grounded, successful, and fulfilled people I’ve worked with—athletes, business professionals, politicians, doctors, cancer survivors—all use therapy as a resource.
Whether you're struggling or simply seeking clarity, therapy is a tool for personal development, emotional insight, and improved relationships. It offers a space free from judgment, where you can explore fears, build skills, and be heard.
Mental health doesn't discriminate, and neither should access to care. Seeking therapy is not a weakness—it’s a powerful act of courage and self-awareness.
Closing Thoughts
Life is too short to stay stuck. If you’re wondering whether therapy could help, it likely can. And if you're unsure where to begin, reach out. I’d be happy to help connect you to the right support—whether that’s meeting with me or referring you to someone else.
You are not alone.
